I Want My Ex Back

In the time immediately following a rough breakup, it can be easy to fall apart. Here are 5 tips to help you get through this time, and not only survive but come out on top…even with your ex back at your side.

1. Breakup pain hurts, but it’s no reason to let your life pass you by. Letting your pain get the best of you and keep you from living your life only creates more problems for you to have to deal with. If you’re going to come out on top of all this, you’re going to need to find the strength to keep going regardless of how much pain you feel over this breakup. It’s natural to feel it, but don’t let it control you or hold you down.

2. Too many people seem to feel that drugs or alcohol are an easy way out from the pain, but in truth it’s just an escape that can damage you more than help you. Find healthy ways to deal with your broken heart…seek help in your friends and family, or things you enjoy.

3. Odd as it may sound, it’s actually a good idea to cut off contact with your ex for about a month after you two break up. This can really help your situation in a number of ways: it keeps more conflict from flaring up from all the emotion flying around, it gives you both time to evaluate your situations, and lets you form a plan for how you can most effectively get him back when the time is up, so that you don’t have to just do whatever comes naturally and hope it works. This no-contact term means no contact, period…no email, no text messaging, no phone calls…nothing.

4. Don’t trust your heart to lead you to victory in getting your ex back…your first impulses in this situation are usually the wrong thing to do, simply because these situations don’t work like you would think they do. It’s a tricky situation, and you’ll need to plan your moves. Think with your head, not with your heart. You’ll have to have reasoning behind everything you do.

5. Be willing to accept that you two may not be destined to be together…but don’t let that hold you back from giving it your best. 95% of breakups can be fixed if handled properly, but there is that chance that you two aren’t each others’ true soulmates. Be prepared for that possibility, but do your best to solve the problems you face.

These 5 tips may not give you much comfort, but right now nothing probably will. If you heed their advice, however, they will show you the way to the right course of action. Never underestimate the power of having a helping hand, a plan…this is too tough of a situation to go it alone.

The smartest and best choice is to make sure you have a plan built for when you actively pursue your ex again after that month of no contact. Winging it is just going to dig you in deeper as most of this is confusing stuff that doesn’t seem to make much sense. Having everything planned out through an underlying strategy will help you immensely.